One of the biggest challenges of parenting is how to be a good parent. We are always confronted with the question on how are we going to raise our child. Should we be strict and be a disciplinarian? Should we be lenient and more understanding to our children? In short, being a parent is hard. We want our children to grow up and be a good person but we do not know how to do it.
Although no parent is perfect, but we can try to be the best that we can be. At Future Generation Early Learning Center, a promising childhood center in Bloomfield New Jersey, we always try to keep communication between parent and child by being transparent on the child’s performance in school and also giving up to date about any development of the child’s learning to the parents. We find this effective because learning is not limited to the classroom, children learn most from their parents.
Thus, we came up with the five effective tips on parent and communication. You might find this helpful too for your own child.
1. Communicate often and in various form
Communication need not always have to be verbal. Especially when we are dealing with our toddlers or our pre-schoolers, we have to talk to them in different ways. We can ask them about their day or what they did in school. We can talk to them about what they learned in school. We can also bond with them by baking some cookies or join them during their play time. In this manner, we can still keep up with the different changes in our child and be able to adjust on how to approach them.
2. Learn to Listen
Perhaps one of the best ways of showing that you care for your child is by listening. Kids from ages three to eight years old are still overwhelmed with the world around them. They are excited to learn new things, discover wonderful information that is very important during their growing years. So if they have stories to tell after school or if they have something to share after play time, make sure to lend an ear and listen carefully to the things they tell you so you will also know what they are doing and who they are dealing with.
3. Be careful with your responses
We have stressed how important listening is to our kids. Thus, our response is also as important as listening to them. In our normal adult conversations, a mere reply of “yes” or “no” or even a simple nod, is understandable that we listened and we understand what the other person said. But this is not the same as talking to our own child. They are very sensitive to our facial expressions and or simple reactions. We recommend that you soften your reactions no matter how you do dislike what your child said. You have to adjust how to deal with your anger or disagree in a way that is not hurtful to the child and in a way that they will not shy away from talking to you again. Resist the urge to say offensive words to them and focus on their emotions rather than expressing your own thoughts.
Effective parenting takes time. No matter how hard we try to be the perfect parent to our child, we still fail most of the time. But the good thing is we have a lot of chances to improve. Perhaps, the best thing that we can do as parents is to try to set an example to our children. It is through our actions and words, that our child learns most. So we have to be very mindful of how we act and how we talk.
If you have any questions about parent and child communication, ask us about it at Future Generation Early Learning Center. You can visit us at 261 Broad St., Bloomfield, New Jersey. You can also visit our website www.fgkids.org or call us at 973-743-4034.